托福的口語(yǔ)話題里面經(jīng)常會(huì)問(wèn)到考生如何應(yīng)對(duì)朋友之間disagreement的話題，我們先來(lái)瀏覽一下此類題目：
T1 Describe the best way for you to deal with disagreement with your friend?
T2 Do you agree that friends could maintain good relationships when they have disagreements?
T1 Talk about a disagreement you have had with others. What is the disagreement about and what is the consequence?
我們先撇開(kāi)題目本身，其實(shí)朋友之間意見(jiàn)不合或者產(chǎn)生爭(zhēng)執(zhí)本身就是一件會(huì)發(fā)生在日常生活中的事情，基本不存在從來(lái)不吵架的朋友或者情侶，那么大家先來(lái)思考一下，你是否和朋友有過(guò)爭(zhēng)執(zhí)?和朋友之間的爭(zhēng)論都是因何而起?你們之間互相對(duì)立的觀點(diǎn)是否讓你們對(duì)彼此有了新的認(rèn)知?最后結(jié)果又是怎樣呢?
我們來(lái)復(fù)習(xí)一下，口語(yǔ)課上老師都告訴大家一個(gè)萬(wàn)能理由叫做make friends，雖然很老套，但是真的超級(jí)好用，之所以老套也是因?yàn)樗娜f(wàn)能，但是我在課堂上一定會(huì)讓學(xué)生把make friends拆分成兩個(gè)可用的論點(diǎn)：
1、基于共同話題(common topics)，通過(guò)和朋友聊天(talk)或者待在一起(stay)，能夠和自己的朋友維持/增進(jìn)友誼(maintain close relationship);2、進(jìn)入一個(gè)新的圈子(circle)，遇見(jiàn)新的人群(new group)，從而擴(kuò)大交際圈(expand social network)，而新朋友可以給你來(lái)的是inspiration。
這兩個(gè)點(diǎn)可以解決很大一部分的話題，因?yàn)槟阕錾抖寄墚a(chǎn)生共同話題和老朋友發(fā)生一些聯(lián)系從而維持感情，或者有機(jī)會(huì)進(jìn)入新圈子結(jié)交新的群體給你生活帶來(lái)靈感，那么這兩個(gè)角度和朋友間的disagreement有什么關(guān)聯(lián)嗎?我們這樣想：
01 你和朋友即使對(duì)一部電影產(chǎn)生了喜好/意見(jiàn)的分歧，但是你們能成為朋友不就是基于打籃球的共同愛(ài)好嗎?你們即使對(duì)旅行目的地的選擇產(chǎn)生了分歧，但是你們之所以能成為朋友不就是因?yàn)榇蠹叶及V迷音樂(lè)嗎?
論點(diǎn)1: It can be really common that friends might have different opinions sometimes. And this kind of difference actually comes from the education we’ve accepted or the family background we have. In fact, it is the similar point of view on something that can bound us together. For example, if both of my friend and I are big fans of Taylor Swift but we have different preference to food type, we can still be friends cuz we can keep talking about her new album or going for her concert together.
02 產(chǎn)生了disagreement就一定有誰(shuí)對(duì)誰(shuí)錯(cuò)嗎?為什么不把吵架當(dāng)作是一次對(duì)事物重新的認(rèn)知呢?或許可以讓你走出自己相對(duì)固定的生活?在制定旅行計(jì)劃的時(shí)候，住宿就一定要選擇你一貫以來(lái)喜歡的五星酒店嗎?或許你朋友喜歡的當(dāng)?shù)孛抟埠懿诲e(cuò)呢?你討厭的明星就不允許你的朋友夸一夸嗎?或許他的偶像做了很多有愛(ài)心的事情(譬如慈善工作)你都沒(méi)有在意過(guò)呢……大家的世界觀都不是最完整的，所以意見(jiàn)不和的時(shí)候，大家好好討論而不是撕B，不是也很有樂(lè)趣嘛!
論點(diǎn)2: It might be a great chance for us to know more from a disagreement. For instance, once I had a quarrel with my best friend because when we were making the plan for our travelling, I just wanted to live in a fancy hotel which I always chose before. But she thought we needed to stay in a local inn since the place we were going is an ancient town and we could have a fantastic experience in this special hotel. Finally I agreed with her even though I was not that happy. But in truth, I found that the inn was very cute and we really had a wonderful time in it.
綜上，一個(gè)好的吵架可以帶來(lái)什么呢?
1、對(duì)朋友更深入的了解(哇，原來(lái)你是這樣的人，我之前都沒(méi)發(fā)現(xiàn)呢!)
2、對(duì)事物有新的認(rèn)知(哇，原來(lái)還可以這么玩，我之前都不知道呢!)
所以，針對(duì)文章開(kāi)頭的第一題，產(chǎn)生了disagreement最好的方法是什么呢?是Long Talk;
第二題，產(chǎn)生了disagreement還能成為好朋友嗎?當(dāng)然可以啊;
第三題，描述一次disagreement，那么請(qǐng)隨意想一個(gè)關(guān)于旅行啊，電影啊，學(xué)習(xí)啊……的話題吧。
希望大家通過(guò)這篇文章學(xué)會(huì)了此類的話題，也希望大家回去跟朋友/男女朋友吵更健康的架，因?yàn)樵谖已劾铮档贸车募芏际菫榱私鉀Q問(wèn)題，解決不了的問(wèn)題為什么要浪費(fèi)時(shí)間去吵架呢?
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